Tuesday, June 13, 2023

If Not For Kindness. . .

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.                                - Galatians 5:22

 

Do to others what you want them to do to you. This is the meaning of the law of Moses and the teaching of the prophets.                             — Matthew 7:12

 

Today we move to the Spirit-produced fruit of kindness.  The encouragement to be kind is part of virtually every religious and ethical system in history.  Most religious and ethical systems have some form of the Golden Rule (Jesus”s version is above) in their teachings.  And yet kindness seems to so often escape us.  These days, there seems to be a shortage of kindness.

A couple of times during the course of my ministry, I have had to respond to the tragedy of someone taking their own life.  While the factors of what would cause someone to take their own life can’t really be known for sure, one of the recent environmental factors in many cases is “cyber-bullying,” a practice that Oxford Dictionary defines as “the use of electronic communication to bully a person, typically by sending messages of an intimidating or threatening nature.” To state the obvious, this practice, which is rampant on social media, points out a fundamental lack of kindness. 

My guess is that most of us reading this try not to be unkind.  But I want to push you (and myself) a bit because Jesus’s teaching is NOT to avoid being unkind.  His teaching is to actively spread kindness.  When we do this, it is VERY powerful.  In fact, I am aware of so many instances when one perfectly timed act of kindness actually stopped a person from taking their own life.  Kindness saves lives!  And yet, you and I too often withhold it.  I say withhold because the kindness is within us.  We do choose to be kind on occasion.  The times we are not kind are not because we are not able to do so.  We withhold kindness. 

We will address some of the reasons why we withhold simple kindness next time, but I want to close today by calling us back to the Golden Rule and the question it forces us to consider.  Do you wish for people to withhold kindness from you?

Here’s your homework today.  Try to catch yourself withholding kindness from others.  You think about giving someone a call to check on them but you decide against it.  You feel a compliment rising to your lips, but you don’t let it see the light of day.  You feel compassion for someone but don’t act on it.  When you catch yourself doing this, rather than chide yourself, ask yourself, why did I withhold this kindness?  As I said, that will be the topic of tomorrow’s edition.

 

Prayer:  God, show us the kindnesses that we withhold today, for we know the world needs kindness now more than ever.  Amen

 

Prayer Focus:  Pray for families that are dealing with the fallout of suicide, some even many years later.

 

Song:  If Everyone Cared – Nickelback

This song definitely won’t be everyone’s cup of tea, but I thought the video was well done.  There’s a quote at the end that gets covered by Youtube Ads.  Here it is. 

“Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world; indeed, it's the only thing that ever has.”                   Margaret Mead

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-IUSZyjiYuY

Friday, June 9, 2023

Spiritual Fashion

 

You are the people of God; he loved you and chose you for his own. So then, you must clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.                             Colossians 3:12

 

“Clothe yourselves” with, among other things, patience.  The apostle Paul instructs that this is part of what it means to be the people of God.  His use of the verb “clothe” implies that we have a role to play in developing and displaying patience in our lives.  We don’t just wait for God to make us more patient.  This has been my experience.

I’ve joked that praying for patience is a dangerous prayer, but it is a prayer that I encourage you to pray on a regular basis.  One of the ways that prayer changes us is that it sensitizes us to the opportunities before us to have our prayer answered.  It also has the potential to see the situations that cause us to be impatient in a transformative way.  So, begin by asking God to teach you patience.  Then, when you encounter a situation where patience is needed, here are some suggestions for cooperating with God’s patience-building in your spirit.

Press pause and breathe.  When you sense impatience rising up, imagine pressing a pause button on it.  Then take at least one full slow breath.  As you draw in your breath, connect with the Spirit within you.  Realize that in that short pause, you have the freedom to choose your response to this situation.  More importantly, the resource of God’s presence is available to help you respond in the moment.  I stress “respond” because our tendency is to simply react.  And if you’re like me, the reaction is too often impatience.  Pausing and breathing creates the potential for a chosen response instead of a reaction.

Reframe the situation.  Instead of saying to yourself, “I can’t believe this traffic!” use your creativity to imagine how you could use the extra time.  Instead of focusing on the possibility of you being late, look for a different way to see the bigger picture.  Getting all bent out of shape will not make you arrive on time, so how could you use the time you been “given.”  You can deal with being late when you arrive and when you arrive, you may be better equipped to deal with being late than if you tied yourself up in knots all the way there.

I like the way Melissa Eisler puts it:

“Getting better at being patient will make your life (and the lives of those around you) easier and ultimately will make you a happier person. After all – adversity won’t be going away anytime soon – it’s part of the human experience and you can’t escape it.”

Patience also identifies you as the people of God. 

 

Prayer:  Spirit of the Living God, fall afresh on us, especially in those moments that would trigger impatience.  Amen

 

Prayer Focus:  Pray for teachers that you know today.

 

Song:  In a Hurry - Alabama

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15gT9HByEN4

Thursday, June 8, 2023

Waiting for the Weather to Change

As a prisoner for the Lord, then, I urge you to live a life worthy of the calling you have received.  Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.  Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace.  There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called to one hope when you were called;  one Lord, one faith, one baptism;  one God and Father of all, who is over all and through all and in all.                       Ephesians 4:1-6

 

I’ve heard it said about the weather in Florida, if you don’t like it, just wait a couple of hours; it will change.  Having patience is a little bit like waiting for the weather to change.  In moments of unpleasantness in our relationships, it’s easy to let the stress of the moment get the best of us.  We can say things we don’t mean, conjure up all kinds of horrible stories about the other person, or even do things that we will later regret.  Paul, writing to people in Ephesus, encourages them in such times to go deeper; “Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love.”

This sounds great but really, how do we do this.  I have to confess that I’m no expert.  I struggle with this.  However, Paul gives us some clues.  First, he says be humble and gentle.   This is a predisposition.  In other words, it involves a decision beforehand to act humbly and gently.  I need to stress the beforehand part.  Before the heated moment comes, it has to be already decided that, when that moment comes, remaining humble and gentle is the plan.  Otherwise, the tendency will be not to act, but to react.  This is not easy by any means, but without a pre-decided course of action, bad reactions are more probable.

The second part of what Paul says is, “be patient, bearing with one another in love” This is to remember the goal of our relationships.  We are here to love God and love people.  we can so easily forget that in the midst of a conflict.  Getting our way or proving ourselves right becomes the goal.  When that happens, love is sacrificed.  If we can keep our focus on love as the ultimate goal, we can then be more patient is trying to work toward a solution in the present issue.  Patience grows out of a commitment to love.  In fact, exercising patience is part of what love does (“love is patient,” 1 Cor 13). 

So two practices to work on today: (1) deciding in advance of a difficult encounter that we will be humble and gentle and (2) keeping love the primary goal.  Give it a go.

 

Prayer:  God, help us learn humility and gentleness in our interactions with each other.  Help us be patient with each other as you have been patient with us.  Help us keep love the goal. Amen.

 

Prayer Focus:  Pray for those with Covid-19 and their families.

 

Song:  Let it Be Love – Lady Antebellum

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AQB-BQn6EJ4

Wednesday, June 7, 2023

Pride and Patience?

 

“Patience is better than pride.” Ecclesiastes 7:8 NLT

 

Doing some research in preparation for talking about patience, I came across this verse in Ecclesiastes.  I don’t remember reading it before, but I know I have.  My initial reaction was, “Why is the Preacher (many scholars name for the author of Ecclesiastes) comparing pride and patience? He talks as if the absence of one would cause the other.  That stopped me in my tracks.

When I am prideful, I inflate my value to be more important than it really is.  More than that, I am tempted to see myself as being more important than others.  I convince myself that I shouldn’t have to wait in line for the Doctor. That person should have already responded to my text, email, or phone call.  Don’t they know how important my issue is?  Why hasn’t God answered my prayer?  I’ve been praying for this for months!  I think you get the picture.  I know that none of you have such thoughts, so today’s message is for me.  😊

Patience is an antidote for prideful behavior.  Why I wait in line, I can remind myself that there are others who are waiting too who are just as valuable as me.  I can also use the time to pray or read a quick Bible verse (or a really brilliant devo from your favorite pastor ever).  Instead of letting my prideful resentment grow while I wait for someone to respond to me, I can patiently contact them to ask if everything is alright and graciously remind them I would like to have a response.  By the way, more than once when I have done this, I’ve discovered that the person I was tempted to be impatient with was experiencing a crisis and led me to compassion instead of pride.  Yes, sometimes the person was just being inconsiderate and ignoring my message.  But even then, exercising patience keeps me from also being inconsiderate in return.  Turning to the issue of “unanswered” prayer, patiently waiting for God  strengthens our faith muscles while impatiently expecting God to answer our prayers leads to what old English translations of the Bible call haughtiness,  a entitled expectation that God should answer my prayer because I deserve it. 

When you sense impatience rising in your spirit, ask yourself some questions?  What assumptions am I making about the person/situation that is the object of my impatience?  Do I sense some movement in my spirit towards pride? 

Patience is a fruit of the Spirit at work in us, so we are not alone in our efforts to summon the patience we need to move away from pride.  Quiet meditative prayer often helps us access the Spirit within us.  Patience is really better than pride. I invite us all to try it and see.  We’ll talk more about this next time. 

 

Prayer:  Patient God, help us see any prideful attitudes in our spirit towards you or other people.  Help us use patience to move away from that haughtiness.  Amen.

 

Prayer Focus:  Pray for the Florida Annual Conference of the United Methodist Church, which begins tomorrow. 

 

Song:  Patience Song – Veggie Tales

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PvgcAYVCUWU

Tuesday, June 6, 2023

Peace and Health (Guest Post from Dave Fletcher)

Today, I share Dave Fletcher’s thoughts on the peace that Jesus leaves us.  Dave is the Founder and Director of Faith and Health Connection. Begin quote

To Trust in God Promotes Inner Peace and Health – John 14:27

DECEMBER 13, 2012 BY DALE FLETCHER

To trust in God promotes health.  When you are anxious and in a state of inner turmoil, the systems of your body interact in ways that are not good for your health. The nervous, endocrine, cardiovascular and immune systems interact with one another in such a way as to have an adverse impact on your physical health. Psychoneuroimmunology is the study of the interaction between psychological processes and the nervous and immune systems of the body. A variety of health conditions are linked to poorly managed psychological stress – low back pain, high blood pressure, ulcers, irritable bowel syndrome, rashes, abdominal pain, insomnia, headaches, panic attacks and the common cold are a few conditions.

Conversely, when you’re in a state of inner peace, the body is in a state called homeostasis. This is when all your bodily systems are functioning well and good physical health is promoted.

God knows that it’s not good for you to worry or to be anxious and that’s why he inspired authors of the Bible to address this issue in their writings to us. He wants you to trust in God and his promises.

“Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.”  Proverbs 12:25

“Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

 

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.  Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Whatever you have learned or received or heard from me, or seen in me—put it into practice. And the God of peace will be with you.” Philippians 4:6-9

“Now may the Lord of peace himself give you peace at all times in every way. The Lord be with you all.” 2 Thessalonians 3:16

“Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear.”  Matthew 6:25

Jesus’ solution to troubling life circumstances is to bring your concerns to him in prayer… and to trust in God – that he will attend to matters.

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding.” Proverbs 3:5

When you give your concerns to God and trust in him, you can have inner peace.   Jesus tell us –

“Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.”  John 14:27

The peace that Jesus provides is unlike any peace that other people and other things can give you. The peace that Jesus provides also brings your bodily systems to a state of homeostasis… and this is good for your health.  God designed our bodies, including our mind, to function in a way according to his guidelines to us in the Bible. He knows that to trust in God promotes peace, and that when we experience his peace, well being and good physical health are promoted.

When we have good physical health, we’re better able to to use the gifts God’s given us to serve in his Kingdom.  When this happens, God is glorified.

That’s why it’s important to trust in God.

End Quote

Tomorrow, we move to the next fruit of the Spirit, patience. Hope you can wait. 😉

Prayer:  Jesus, thank you for extending you peace to us.  Help us to trust you with all that would disturb that peace. Amen.

 

Prayer Focus:  Spend some time identifying the stresses in your spirit that are robbing you of Jesus’s peace.  Offer them to God

 

Song:  Peace Like a River

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=J3cnKDpWXy8

Source: https://www.faithandhealthconnection.org/to-trust-in-god-promotes-inner-peace-and-health-john-1427/

Friday, June 2, 2023

The Shalom-Makers

 


Matthew 5:9 - Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God.

Matthew 10:34 - Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword.

 

In the same Gospel (Matthew), Jesus seems to contradict himself.  In the Beattitudes section of the Sermon on the Mount, he says that peacemakers are blessed.  Then five chapters later, he warns the disciples as He is sending them out, “Don’t think that I have come to bring peace.”  What the heck Jesus?  What are we to make of this?

I believe the answer lies in what we said about peace yesterday.  The work of shalom-making is hard.  Part of what makes it hard is that it isn’t popular.  We only need to look at all the conflicts raging in our culture right now to see this.  Our culture is a Win-Lose culture, not a culture of peacemaking.  Democrats vs. Republicans, Mask-Wearers vs. Never-Mask-Wearers, Black Lives Matter vs All Lives Matter,  CNN vs. Fox News are just a few examples.  The goal of these conflicts is not peace, but victory.  My side needs to win which necessitates your side losing.  Shalom holds out the vision of a situation where there is benefit for all.  Who do you know touting that message and if you can think of someone, how popular is their message?

Real Shalom-makers are often the most hated of all because both sides fundamentally resent the shalom-makers aim.  They are trying to win, not build community.  They aim at gaining the upper hand, not working toward harmony.  Jesus calls us to be community builders and harmony makers and he says that it is the blessed work of the children of God.  However, he warns us that it will put us at odds with those we would bring together.  Those we would bring together want us to take their side, not help them understand the other side. 

The work of Shalom-making is still in our job description nonetheless.  However, Jesus has this to say about it:  “…do not worry about how you are to speak or what you are to say; for what you are to say will be given to you at that time.”  In other words, as we know, shalom-making is a fruit of the Spirit working in us.  We’ll talk more about that tomorrow.

I want to close by sharing a story about what this shalom-making looks like in real life.  It’s a story behind a oft-misunderstood photo from the 1968 Olympics.  I hope you’ll read it.

https://www.filmsforaction.org/articles/the-white-man-in-that-photo/?fbclid=IwAR1_JHVQN5Y2hHvt00kZeGWUG5XZ9RCyVYjFjJOh9I1tCYHzEf1UHfFNHd8#.Xt9-ppciQAY.facebook

 

Prayer:  Lord, we confess that the work of Shalom-making is beyond us.  We need you to give us the words and lead our actions. Come, Holy Spirit Come. Amen.

 

Prayer Focus:  Ask God to show you one thing you can do or say to further the work of Shalom-making.

 

Song:  Breathe on Me, Breath of God – Alana Story

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PDO5mOvsEIk

Thursday, June 1, 2023

Peace is Not the Absence of Something

 

Ephesians 2:14-19, CEB - Christ is our peace. He made both Jews and Gentiles into one group. With his body, he broke down the barrier of hatred that divided us.  He canceled the detailed rules of the Law so that he could create one new person out of the two groups, making peace. He reconciled them both as one body to God by the cross, which ended the hostility to God.  When he came, he announced the good news of peace to you who were far away from God and to those who were near.  We both have access to the Father through Christ by the one Spirit.  So now you are no longer strangers and aliens. Rather, you are fellow citizens with God’s people, and you belong to God’s household

 

We move to peace today, the second fruit of the Spirit mentioned in Paul’s Galatians 5 list.  We will spend three days here, but on this first day, I want to burst some bubbles about peace.  The word Paul uses here is the Greek word equivalent for the Hebrew Shalom.  Shalom conjures a much richer and grander vision than our over-used English word peace.  Often, when we try to define peace, we do so by saying what it is not.  It’s not conflict, it’s not turmoil, and it’s not stressful.  Shalom hears that and calls B.S.

Shalom actually requires us to lean into the conflict, be fully present in the turmoil, and to actually deal with the stress in healthy ways.  I refer you again to the passage above from Ephesians:  “With his body, he broke down the barrier of hatred that divided us… so that he could create one new person out of the two groups, making peace.”  Paul doesn’t spell out exactly how Christ accomplishes this, but he doesn’t have to because his readers already know.  Christ confronted his own people, incurring their fury, attracting the attention of the cruel Romans, and getting himself hung on a tree.”  There is no absence of conflict in the life of Jesus.  Turmoil and stress abound.  If you doubt me, read any one of the Gospels again.  Christ moves toward all the things we like to say are not peace in order to BE our peace.

 

I like the way Wille Krischke puts it: “the biblical idea of peace is much broader than our modern understanding; it is not simply the absence of conflict but also the presence of harmony. It’s not ceasefire; it’s community.”

Harmony and community require us to do tough things:  to really listen to things we don’t want to hear, to move out of isolation towards a problem we would prefer to avoid, and staying engaged in difficult conversations until common ground is reached.  It means seeking out relationships with people we’d rather ignore, questioning some of our cherished assumptions, and asking God to show us our blind spots/biases.  It means trusting that Christ is in that very difficult work and that Christ will bring true peace/shalom out of the struggle.  “Christ is our peace” throughout the process.

I challenge you to let go of any over-sentimentalized notions of peace and exchange it for the Shalom Christ offers us in Himself.  More about that tomorrow.

 

Prayer:  Help us to know what the peace you offer us really looks like.  Help us to know your perfect Shalom.  Amen.

 

Prayer Focus:  Pray for families experiencing bitter conflict right now.

 

Song:  Plastic Ono Band – Give Peace a Chance

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C3_0GqPvr4U