Tuesday, April 26, 2022

Forgive and Remember

 

Jeremiah 31:34 and Hebrews 8:12 (Both NIV) - “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”

 

In both scriptures above, God is speaking. The author of Hebrews is actually quoting Jeremiah.  This scripture forms the basis for the assertion that one should forgive and forget. After all, if God does both, shouldn’t we? 

There are multiple problems with this prescription. First, let me say that I do not for one moment believe that God literally forgets human sin. The phrase “never again remember” can also be translated “wipe the slate clean.”  The idea being conveyed here is that when God forgives, the books are erased.  God chooses to eliminate the possibility of the offense being used against the forgiven again.  The scripture is trying to communicate that God doesn’t hold grudges.  Human beings need not worry that God is going to say to us someday, “remember that day you used my name in a profane way; it’s time for you pay for that.”  God chooses not to “remember” sins in that punitive way. 

Furthermore, even if God did, in fact, forget offenses, to do the same would be a very bad idea for humans. A parent who forgets that a child has a pattern of repeatedly making the same mistake would not be able to help the child adopt a different and healthier pattern.  Because Dad knows the Junior has snuck cookies from the pantry many times before, Dad might choose to put the cookies out of reach.  Even if it were possible for Dad to forget about the cookie theft, to do so would be to invite more cookie theft.  It’s good for Dad to forgive Junior, but it’s irresponsible to forget.

“Forgetfulness” of this sort could even be dangerous.  Indulge me in this thought experiment. Imagine a young girl named Sara that has no short-term memory.  Five minutes after something happens, Sara cannot remember it.   Now imagine Sara is bullied by an older girl Mara at the bus stop each morning.  Mara has learned about Sara’s condition and takes great advantage of it.  Sara arrives at school each morning with no explanation for the bruises on her arms and her missing lunch money.  Because Sara has “forgotten” what happened, each day she returns to the bus stop for more cruelty. 

While Sara’s victimization is fictitious and the details are unlikely, it illustrates the problem with “forgive and forget.”  While Sara can forgive Mara, it would be much safer and healthier for her to forgive and remember.  The Hebrew idea of remembrance is to bring the past into the present again.  It is precisely this idea that we invoke when during communion, a pastor quotes the words of Jesus, “do this in remembrance of Me.”  These words are meant to bring what Christ did for humanity in the cross into the present again.  His broken body and His shed blood are tangibly brought into the present in the bread and wine/juice.  While this a powerful use of “remembering,” doing the same with past offenses perpetuates the pain.  When Jesus, on the cross, asks God to “forgive” those who put Him there, He is asking God to “remember their sins no more.”  The slate is wiped clean.  God has not forgotten our sin.  He simply chooses not to use it against us.  The sin is “dismembered” instead of “remembered.”  This is what our goal in forgiving is as well, but we’ll talk about that at a later date.

 

Question:  What does it mean to you that God has chosen to “remember your sins no more?”

 

Prayer:  Lord, you know all of my mistakes.  I marvel that knowing all of that, you still love me as if I had never sinned.  Thank you for choosing not to use my past against me.  Help me live into a much better future where I more closely follow your perfect ways.  Amen.

 

Prayer Focus:  Pray for victims of unjust violence today.

 

Song:  East to West – Casting Crowns

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TnkkZLdjf9Y

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